– A survey conducted by the Indonesian Child Protection Committee (KPAI) and the Ministry of Health in 2013 stated that 62.7 percent of Indonesian adolescents have had sexual relations outside of marriage. This is a priority issue because in addition to contradicting religious teachings, premarital sex increases the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
Puberty Affects Teenage Sexual Desire
The sex glands (gonads) not only regulate physical changes, but also psychic adolescents such as liking the opposite sex. This often creates conflicts because sexual desires and moral considerations are often incompatible. Too much sexual desire is often a justification as an excuse for premarital sexual behavior.
Religion only allows sexual desire to be channeled through marriage, as well as eastern culture. That’s why in ancient times, the age of marriage was relatively young. Now, teenagers have the opportunity to go to school and work before marriage. Teenagers are expected to be able to have strong self control, especially regarding sexual desire. That is why the role of parents is needed to educate children about reproductive health.
Tell if free sex has risks . Including pregnancy for young girls and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV / AIDS, syphilis and gonorrhea. STIs can happen to anyone, including girls and boys.
Teach them how to respect yourself and others. Respecting yourself is one way that teenagers are not easily influenced by the image of the “perfect teenager” in the media, persuasion from friends, and lovers. Explain to the child that he should respect the opposite sex and not intend to have romantic relationships as a means of channeling sexual desire. Also let them know that love is not the same as sex.
Avoid pornographic content. Media with pornographic content is proven to cause sexual desire in adolescents. Repeated access to pornography can damage the decision-making brain and destroy the four good hormones. One of the effects is that a child viewing pornographic content has the potential to vent sexual desires without regard to shame and fear of parents or God. Or, the mother can tell the child that what she sees is not something to practice.
Teach how to be responsible. Tell your child that without parents supervising him, he must remain responsible for his behavior. So he needs to avoid behavior that has a negative impact on himself and his family.
Engage in positive activities. For example in organizational activities at school, extracurricular activities, exploring hobbies, and regularly exercising. This positive activity can reduce and divert sexual desire that arises. If a teenager is busy enough with positive activities that he likes, the possibility of thinking about and engaging in sexual activity is reduced.
Create quality time with children. The closeness of children to parents makes them open to everything, including matters of education and love. If he behaves differently, don’t hesitate to ask what he is feeling and experiencing. Listen to what is being said and give advice if necessary. Avoid criticizing, accusing, and judging children without evidence as this complicates the situation.
If the mother has other questions about the psychology of adolescence, do not hesitate to discuss with your doctor . You can contact the doctor anytime and anywhere via Chat, and Voice / Video Call. Come on, immediately download the application on the App Store or Google Play!
* This article was published on SKATA